As I think back on the people who touched my life, I'm reminded of a summer camp counselor named Zelda, who taught us modern dance to the sound of a new and exciting piece of music: Gershwin's "Rhapsody in Blue." She pulled me aside one day and said, "Madeleine, I think you have potential."
"Potential?" I asked.
She was not talking about dance, although I would have been pleased to hear that. She was talking about potential in life. I was 14 years old at the time. The camp was located on a farm in Binghamton, N.Y., and, by today's standards, was very basic. Our activities consisted of piling into the back of a pickup truck with a milk can full of red Kool-Aid, which we would drink at the lake after our swim. We'd come back and play simple games like volleyball and Ping Pong, and when it rained, we would make lanyards. The highlight of the season was the Color War. I was on the blue team. We were all from New York City, and before that, from war-torn Europe.
I remember Zelda because she was the first person who said the word "potential" to me. My mother had talked to both me and my older brother about America as the land of opportunity, but I had never interpreted the American dream personally. My older brother was expected to write the next chapter of the Horatio Alger success story for the simple reason that he was a boy. There was no similar Harriet Alger.
I don't know exactly what Zelda saw in me that summer afternoon that made her tell me I had potential, but I do know what effect it had on me. Why else would I remember that brief conversation? It made me stand taller than if I had won first place in a dance contest. Her words allowed me to expand my sense of who I was and who I could become. They encouraged me to dream, and eventually, to strive to fulfill those dreams.
One small word, said at just at the right time, can make a lifelong difference. Perhaps that is why I recently told a high school student, "You have great presence" after she had just given a campaign speech for "governor" at a workshop for juniors and seniors about how to run for public office. (I was there to deliver the keynote.)
The look on her face expressed an emotion that can be best described as relieved happiness. She glowed.
"That means a lot to me, especially coming from you," she said.
I knew exactly what she meant.Madeleine Kunin is a former Vermont governor and U.S. ambassador to Switzerland.
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